The Divorce Coach

Divorce Help & Support in South West London

We held the second monthly support forum to help men and women going through serious relationship
breakdown on 5 September in Twickenham. A combination of the tube strike and holidays meant we were just a select few - which was lucky as we adjourned to the pub because there was a muddle over the date and we were unable to get into our cosy little venue at the Organic Cafe.

It wasn't ideal but it worked and thanks to my lovely facilitators Jennie and Christine and to those who attended and took the change of venue in their stride. sincere apologies to anyone who did turn up and missed us, do try us again.

Attendee Jane wrote: 'regardless of the change of venue and the format, I felt I had a very useful evening.'

We are holding these support forums on the second Wednesday of the month from 10 October.

If you are loking for to:

• release stress by finding practical answers
• share ideas and information with people who understand
• find solutions to bring about change
• learn how to cope better on your own
• find and accept new possibilities
• realise you are not alone

you are very welcome. Please book by telephoning or e-mail us at least a day in advance.

Further details here

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If Your Marriage or Partnership Has Come To An End, Have You Found the Divorce Support You Need?

Most married people faced with this question will say no. For those people who can settle amicably and at least cost - a minority - they are likely to obtain a best possible result for all the family and may not need much by way of support, except to tie up the legal aspects. But for the rest, by the time they progress the split they will be so worn out by the emotional aspects of being in a disintegrating relationship that their ability to take enormous decisions - including how best to seek help - is often impaired.

I know through personal experience and through my business as The Divorce Coach that there really is a shortage of really useful practical, emotional and financial help through divorce. I've recognised this for years, which is why I set up my practice offering the support I needed  - and couldn't find - when I went through my divorce.

SW Support Forums in SW London

But I didn't know how to address the need in an informal way until a client suggested a 'divorce networking evening.' The first forum launched in July and you can read more here in my blog.

Here's what attendees said:

* the group sessions were really useful
* good to talk to others in same situation
* ..specifically helped me to feel more positive and see I am in a better    place now..
* I liked the group sessions and brainstorming ideas...

Chris said: I met different people with the same kind of problems and got some strength from them to go forward with my life. Please keep going with these meetings because there are plenty of people who need help..

Sandra wrote: (the forum) helped with clarifying current problems and strategies..will come again

The Through Divorce and Beyond Support Forum meet in Twickenham on the second Wednesday of the month from October, with the next meeting on 5th September.

If you (or anyone you know who is struggling through serious relationship breakdown) live in and around SW London and are looking for self-help through relationship breakdown, here's the official blurb below. However, if you live further afield and you're interested in the concept, do get in touch as there is much interest in the concept from both prospective participants  and facilitators and I'm keen to take the idea beyond Richmond and Twickenham :)

When you don't know where to turn, find help at the Divorce Coach Through Divorce and Beyond Support Forum in Twickenham, next meeting on Wednesday 5 September 6.15pm

Come along to hear the divorce expert's tips for the best possible split and meet and share ideas with others who can help and who are themselves going through the experience.
* If you're facing separation and divorce and don't know where to turn...
* If you're going through the process but have stalled or hit obstacles...
* If you've come out the other side but know there are still lots of unanswered questions...
.
...then this is your chance to find practical solutions in a safe and supportive group.

When: Wednesday 5 September 2007
       6:15 - 8:30pm
Where:
Twickenham
Cost: £5

Pre-register your attendance please by
telephoning Kirsten on 020 8123 9046

Any questions? Call or e-mail:
kirsten@divorcecoaching.co.uk

More details here

Divorce Support Forum in Twickenham

Kirsten Gronning The Divorce Coach is holding a series of monthly self-help support forums to help men and women going through serious relationship breakdown. 

Come along to hear the divorce expert’s tips for the best possible split and meet and share ideas with others who can help and who are themselves going through the experience.

 

• If you’re facing separation and divorce and don’t know where to turn..

• If you’re going through the process but have stalled or hit obstacles…

• If you’ve come out the other side but know there are still lots of unanswered questions…

..then this is a chance to find practical solutions in a safe and supportive group.

 When: Wednesday 5 September 2007

6:15 - 8:30pm

Where:

Church St,Twickenham

Cost: £5

 Pre-register your attendance please by

telephoning Kirsten on 020 8123 9046

 Any questions? Call or e-mail:

kirsten@divorcecoaching.co.uk

 

More details here

Real solutions fast - when more than legal help or counselling is needed

Launch of The Divorce Coach self-help Support Forum in Twickenham

I've looked for years for really useful practical, emotional and financial help before, through and after divorce. I've asked the main providers of legal and counselling services through serious relationship breakdown - eg. lawyers and Relate for answers, but come up with next to nothing (see end of blog) unless it's in the form of counselling or financial help from lawyers once a divorce is under way.

My clients and subscribers to BecomeYourOwnDivorceCoach.com are increasingly telling me they they want and need more support. Having founded The Divorce Coach - to offer the sort of 1:2:1 inexpensive support that I needed and couldn't find when I went through my divorce a few years ago - my clients tell me they also need to find clarity and answers with others who understand.

In order to fulfil this need I launched The Divorce Coach first monthly self-help support forum last night in Twickenham. Called the Through & Beyond Divorce Support Forum, the twelve men and women who attended recognised the need to talk and find some answers with others in a safe environment. I guaranteed they would find at least one answer which would help solve the biggest problem currently weighing them down. I think and hope they found more than one. Here's what they said:

• the group sessions were really useful
• good to talk to others in same situation
• ..specifically helped me to feel more positive and see I am in a better place now..
• I liked the group sessions and brainstorming ideas...

Grateful thanks to Christine, Jennie and Jamie who helped facilitate. I think Jennie summed up the ethos of the group by congratulating everyone for coming and taking that enormous first step by recognising they wanted and needed to talk and try and find some answers.

Will I hold another forum? - you bet.

Chris said: I met different people with the same kind of problems and got some strength from them to go forward with my life. Please keep going with these meetings because there are plenty of people who need help..

Sandra wrote: (the forum) helped with clarifying current problems and strategies..will come again

Next meeting:

• If you're facing separation and divorce and don't know where to turn
  If you're going through the process but have stalled or hit obstacles
  If you've come out the other side but know there are still lots of unanswered questions

then this is your chance to find practical solutions in a safe and supportive group.
When: Wednesday 5 September 2007
6:15 - 8:30pm
Where:
Twickenham
Cost: £5

Pre-register your attendance please by telephoning Kirsten on 020 8123 9046
Any questions? Call or e-mail:
kirsten@divorcecoaching.co.uk
More details at
www.divorcecoaching.co.uk

Real solutions fast - when more than legal help or counselling is needed

ps. I'll be writing about the limited help and support which is available from other sources on the emotional, financial and practical level  - especially through divorce and after - very shortly. If you can recommend any such help, please get in touch.

Through Divorce & Beyond Divorce Support Forum

Evening Support Forum in SW London

As reported in the Richmond and Twickenham Times a couple of weeks ago, I am holding a series of monthly support forums to help men and women going through serious relationship breakdown, with the first meeting on Thursday 12 July. 

This is for people contemplating or going through separation and divorce to:

• Find some clarity in marital muddles
• Learn practical solutions to obtain the best possible split once you know this is what you must do
• Meet and share with others who understand ideas and solutions to make your journey simpler
• Learn new strategies for coping through separation and divorce

‘This is a unique service, which I found immensely informative and helpful'

Kathy, subscriber to ‘Become Your Own Divorce Coach' eCourse

After a couple of years of successfully helping clients both on a 1:2:1 basis with divorce coaching support and the ‘Become Your Own Divorce Coach' eCourse, The Divorce Coach recognise a largely unfulfilled need for mutual support for people facing or going through serious relationship breakdown. ‘ Through Divorce and Beyond' is their new Support Forum meeting monthly in SW London. You can register at the bottom of the page.

Who will attend?

• People who wish to help themselves to obtain the best possible split. They might be:
  • in a desperately unhappy marriage, considering how they might achieve a best possible split
  • being divorced, and wondering how they will cope on their own, or
  • driving the divorce, but looking for resources and support which will better help them see what is right for them and their situation.

How will I benefit?

The forum is best suited to people who recognise the advantages of talking to others going through a similar, life changing journey and seeking to:

• release stress by finding practical answers
• share ideas and information with people who understand
• find solutions to bring about change
• learn how to cope better on your own
• find and accept new possibilities
• realise you are not alone

How will this work?

• By focusing on one area where you wish to seek clarification, you will be encouraged to take away new strategies to move things forward
• You will be encouraged to put together your own action plan
• You are encouraged to register in advance by telephoning the Divorce Coach
• The autumn meetings will include a guest speaker to help us better understand the divorce process and answer queries
• Attendees will be asked to agree in advance that all information imparted is in confidence

Is this for women only?

Definitely not - the forum is designed for women and men. The important thing is that you are going through serious relationship breakdown, and that you wish to learn more about the options open to you so that you are better able to take control.

When and Where is the forum?

Date: Thursday 12 July ‘07

Time: 6:30 (prompt) - 8:30pm

Venue: Church Street , Twickenham, TW

How much will it cost?

There will be a small charge of £5 per head to cover the venue cost

I have another question and What do I do next?

Telephone The Divorce Coach on 020 8123 9046 and ask for Kirsten Gronning

You can register your attendance by email to:
kirsten@divorcecoaching.co.uk

Please supply a telephone number where I can contact you to discuss the format and venue.

Places are limited to people who are looking for support which facilitates solidarity and understanding with others who have gone through it, or who are going through a similar experience.

The Divorce Coach Support Forums and Services take people through divorce and beyond

Divorce - Can You Afford To?

Most married people faced with this question will say no and fortunately the majority won’t need to address the question - yet. But for those 40% of marriages which will end in divorce (a conservative estimate) most won’t have the luxury of finding out whether they can afford to or not before it happens. Chances are the split will either be driven by one of the partners before they’ve fully considered the financial implications. They’ll most likely thought it over for a long time and be so worn out by the emotional aspects of being in a disintegrating relationship that they know they need to get out anyway, whether they ‘can afford it’ or not.

Those folks attending the seminar called ‘Can You Afford to Divorce’ which I co-hosted in Twickenham in April with an IFA found some answers. But the feedback which really resonated with me with my divorce coaching hat on was that there really is a shortage of really useful practical, emotional and financial help through divorce. I’ve recognised this for years, which is why I set up my practice offering the support I needed - and couldn’t find  - when I went through my divorce.

But I didn’t know how to address the need in an informal way until a client suggested a ‘divorce networking evening.’ That translated to running and facilitating a self-support group with an appropriate guest speaker talking about their ‘area’ - a win/win situation: benefits for the speaker in terms of future business and publicity; low cost advice and support for the attendees. It's a bit like the self help web sites around which allow people to discuss their own experiences and find some learning in the experience, but this is face-to-face.

On a bad day I ask ‘Will people come?’ but frankly, if one person comes, I’ll consider it a success because that’ll be one person who has recognized they want and need to talk and find some answers. And I guarantee they will.

So, for those readers who live in and around SW London and are looking for self- help through relationship breakdown, click this link here for the official blurb. If you live further afield and would like to attend, get in touch and I’ll see what I can do to extend the support outside SW London J