The 'Separated and Successful Club' in Debenhams Autumn Campaign
Media opportunities to get across the positive parts of relationship breakdown and divorce aren't something I readily pass up: I'm spreading a message that divorce coaching really helps people at this difficult time in their lives. It's also complementary to other divorce services and I'm thrilled when the media recognise these messages too.
Readers of my blog and newsletters and my clients will know that I firmly believe that positive thinking begets only more positive thinking and I’m happy to walk my talk when it comes to promoting the positive side of divorce whilst being sensitive to those who are still trying to reach the other – often better – side.
Woman’s pages in magazines and newspapers are getting better at promoting ‘life after divorce.’
I hope men’s pages are too and I'd would love to get feedback on this from men.
Two of my key messages are:
- Look after the children’s interests before your own
- Look after yourself, after all if you don’t who else will? This applies to both men and women
Both of these messages are entwined because if you don’t look after yourself you may not be able to look after the kids.
I do sometimes wonder whether women generally are better able to move on and be postive post-divorce. I don't intend this as a sexist remark - maybe women are better at verbalising or writing about this. And so I welcome feedback from men about their new happier state, and how divorce led them there.
As one of Debenhams ‘Separated and Successful Club’ in their recent campaign I was honoured to join Bel Mooney, Trisha Goddard and Colleen Nolan in a celebration of women who have been through divorce and found new happiness. You’ll see the pictures appearing very soon, and you can read more here in the Daily Express.
Interestingly, the other three celebrities are all remarried or about to – Bel just recently so, and Collen soon – having gone through some very painful and in some cases, public splits.
Now there’s some hope for the rest of us – after we’ve built up our businesses, worked out what went wrong the last time and got the children back on track perhaps :) As I said, positive thinking begets more positive thinking!
Gabriella’s journey through an acrimonious divorce, which took her from the depths of despair in a fight through court with her ex husband and led to her subsequent mission to help other people set themselves free of limiting beliefs and phobias is related in an interview on our website.